Ryan Pineda says your marriage also can play a factor in your entrepreneurship life. In fact, he believes it’s the single most important factor in determining your success or failure. He cites her wife, Mindy, as an example. They celebrated their eighth wedding anniversary. They started dating a few years ago, but then decided to marry soon after, at a relatively young age for marriage. Mindy just turned twenty-one. Ryan was twenty-four years old. Around this time, Ryan was still playing minor league baseball, while Mindy attended school to become an English teacher.
As a minor league, Ryan made a modest $1200 a month. On the other hand, Mindy isn’t earning anything since she’s still studying. So it’s easy to tell that during that time, they were really struggling in money. But that didn’t stop them from enjoying their time together. Looking back over the past eight years, Ryan has picked up some valuable lessons in life. First, it doesn’t matter how successful you are as an entrepreneur if the relationship with your family (especially with your wife) is bad. This is the case with many entrepreneurs, who put their pursuit of money over their family.
And you where it ends. The stories on those drama series do happen in real life. The only ending to that is a divorce. Ryan says, “And so for me this is something I’ve been extremely cautious of, especially as my own businesses and social media following have grown. My wife and I actually sat together and created rules for me to follow in order to guard our family. One of those rules is that I am not going to work weekends. Now, this is very counterintuitive to most business people because they feel like that’s the time to get ahead.”
Ryan then continues, “But for me, I’ve made the commitment that I’m not even gonna have my office open on weekends. None of my employees come in. I don’t come in. I want everyone spending time with their families and valuing those relationships. And I’ll tell you, I believe it’s made me even more successful by doing this. Not only do I get to enjoy my time with my family, I also get to recharge and get ready for the coming week. And because of that I’m able to perform at a much higher level during those weekdays.”
Another rule that Ryan sets for himself is that, no matter the circumstances at work, he leaves his office at 5:00 P.M. With this, he can be home on time for dinner with his wife and kids. If he finds himself not being able to do that, it means he’s not doing a good job at his work, either due to slacking off or improper task delegation. He also makes sure that every Friday is date night with his wife. Ryan says, “It’s our time to get together, just husband and wife, no kids, no friends, just us. And thankfully, we live in Las Vegas, which is one of the best places for food in the entire world. And we enjoy going on The Strip and eating at some of the best restaurants that it has to offer.”
He then adds, “And it’s our time to reconnect and focus on each other while putting away all the other things and problems that we might have. And I would encourage you to put these types of limits and things in your schedule so that you are making time for your spouse. Since our relationship is really good, it’s allowed me to succeed in business because I’m not worried about all the problems that we’re having in our own marriage. You see, when people have these marriage issues, it affects their business big time.”
“They’re not able to go out full force, with a clear mind and a positive attitude. They’ve got all this worry because of marriage problems. So the way to avoid that? Is to work on your marriage. If your marriage is good, your business is going to be better as well.” Another thing Ryan has learned is that you need to gain your partner’s trust. Not only in being loyal and faithful, but also in taking business risks (such as running up credit cards to flip your first house) in the hope that you will get a greater return later on. Always seek your partner’s blessing when doing these things, and of course, you have to earn that.
Overall, being successful in the business world and entrepreneurship doesn’t mean that you have to sacrifice everything else, especially your partner or family. Because think about it. If for some reason your business goes awry, who will be there to pick you up? It’s your family, of course. The key here is always maintaining balance in your life. You can be successful in your business and have a good relationship with your wife and kids. It’s all a matter of discussing your goals and plans together. Remember that your wife is an ally, not a hindrance. And as they as, “Happy Wife, Happy Life.”